Being with like-minded men and women

Being with like-minded People is a fundamental action to take. From what we have observed around us it is the first action that you should be doing.

This topic will be a 360 of being with like-minded People because it is such a factor for you to thrive that we have to provide you with the best information we can about it. If there is anything you would like to add on this topic please reach out to us through the contact page.

To help you to reach the outcome you are after, being with like-minded People, nothing is better than envisioning this outcome. Imagine that you have already reached this outcome. You are among a group of People with whom you have strong bonds and connections. These men and women share similar values as you do, they are aware of what’s going on and there is an alignment on what you guys seek: a society centered on People, a society where the system supports People’s wellbeing and happiness. You feel good in this group and you are confident that a better future is ahead of us. You know that you can truly rely on these People. You have trust in them.

Feel free to close your eyes to do this exercise. Feeling the outcome you are after will help you to reach it because you know what you are heading to.

Before talking about where to find like-minded People we need to talk about who. Who do we look for?

To help answer this question you need to know yourself. You need to know yourself because you will usually look for People who have values aligned with yours. You will look for People who have a similar understanding of what’s going on. You will look for People who look for similar outcomes. So let me ask you, what are your values? What outcomes to seek? Feel free to write this down on a sheet of paper if this helps you to express yourself.

You will be looking for two things in the People you search for: mindsets and behaviors. If you only look for mindsets you may be disappointed as the People you find may have a similar mindset as yours but may not align with you on the behavior side. For instance they may support values such as respect and honesty, they may be aware of what is happening but they may do nothing about it from a behavior perspective. That is the reason why you should look for mindsets and behaviors that align with yours.

To find like-minded People you mainly have two options. You either search for them or you attract them. It’s a bit like finding a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Search for it or attract it. Sounds trivial but it helps you to decide where you want to allocate energy. We often think about searching for something but not about attracting it.

You can search for like-minded People. You have also two main avenues (options) to do this. You can search for like-minded People online, on the internet, or offline, around you, in the street, your neighborhood, your city.

Here are a few ideas to find like-minded People online:

  • Location where to find them

    • Telegram

    • Facebook, Twitter

    • Meetup, eventbrite

    • LinkedIn

    • Substack

    • Patreon, Rumble, CrowdBunker, Youtube

  • Take into account that you often can filter the content by location. For instance, in the search field of Telegram you can search for groups by using keywords but also a location.

  • Browse content related to topics that matter to you. Look for who is posting content. Look for who is commenting. Engage with the People who post and comment. Feel free to reach out directly to them and engage in meaningful conversations.

  • Search for social media groups. There may be local groups in your city. For example, go to Telegram and search for groups in your city by using the search bar. Note that there may not be any group if your city is very small.

  • Search for events related to topics that matter to you. For this do a search on Brave, Google or other search engine. Use event platforms such as Meetup or Eventbrite to search for events in your area.

  • If you find interesting People who appear to you as being like-minded, contact them. Do ask them questions or even schedule a call with them. There is no issue in doing so at all. You don’t need anyone’s permission to talk to like-minded folks.

Here are a few ideas to find like-minded People offline:

  • Ask your neighbors if there is a WhatsApp (or other app) group for the People in the neighborhood. Very often there is a WhatsApp group where neighbors interact. Ask if you can join the group. Simply observe what People talk about and engage with them. Develop local bounds between the People. Fuel the local resilience. You don’t need to push your ideas. Do this through questioning.

  • Engage in conversations with People around you (neighbors, workmates, groups). Listen to these folks. What do they think? Ask simple questions. Do not use statements that polarize People such as “our President sucks!”. It would be counterproductive.

You can search for them and you can also attract them. Usually People wouldn’t think about attracting like-minded People but they often come to realize that this is what is happening. For instance, you behave in a certain manner and other folks come to you and ask you how you do this or they simply want to get to know you.

Here are ideas:

  • Use the “be a lighthouse” tactic. It consists in role modeling (broadcasting, showing) the behaviors that you would like to see inside society. For example, you will show kindness to People. Other People who see what you are doing will be interested in what you are doing and some will start adopting similar behaviors as you do. This is something that works. If you are part of teams of People during your daily activities you have an opportunity to do so.

  • Be creative about attracting other like-minded People. For example, you can wear t-shirts with slogans such as “Searching AWAKE People”, “Are you awake?”

You can interact with like-minded People online and offline. Sounds trivial, right? It’s important to notice it and especially to notice where you spend your time with like-minded People. You may spend a lot of time with them online but the quality of interactions may be poor and may not trigger any change.

I would invite you to spend time with like-minded People offline. We need to boost face to face contact in a context where the People who control the system are trying to isolate People and to get them to think that they are connected through the Internet (false sense of connection). That means that you should opt for finding local like-minded People. Think about it… who will you need to rely on first when it comes to energy, food, transportation? Your buddy in another country or the local folks around you? Very likely the local folks around the place where you live. It’s just common sense and you know this but someone has to remind you of it.

What do you do with like-minded People? Well, let me ask you, why did you connect with like-minded People in the first place? Yes, something interrupted your peaceful life and this something is a babysitter getting a little too crazy about control. So you guys agree on something: let’s find solutions to deal with this babysitter (your local official, your representative at the parliament, WEF member, …) and regain a peaceful life.

In a similar manner as like-minded elites gather to progress their own interest over the one of other men and women by putting in place strategies you can actually do the same thing. You gather with like-minded People to identify strategies that will push your interests: more autonomy, more self-empowerment, more wellbeing, more happiness, less control, less hypocrisy…

If you take a bit of distance versus what you do with like-minded People, you realize that there are really two types of things you are doing together: blah blah blah and do do do. Discussions and actions. It matters to realize this because some groups are all about discussions and nothing gets done.

Discussions are necessary, especially when the group starts forming. You guys have to discover and know each other. But you can define the quality level of discussions. You can prevent the group from falling into lame and shallow discussions that have zero value (and most of you know it). As you guys are aligned on values and outcomes you seek, feel free to jump into the thinking part with questions such as “what do we want to achieve?”, “how can we get there, does anyone have any idea?”, “what does success look like for us, locally?” You will see that People will start talking. At first People may not dare to propose things out of fear of other People’s judgment. Get People to feel comfortable.

Once you guys have identified actions that you can do, you can move to the doing part. It’s very likely that you will join groups of like-minded People where People are already doing things. Before you even engage in what they are doing, try to observe if what they do has any impact. It would be a pity to waste your time. If they protest every Saturday then it’s very likely that there is a near zero impact of what they are doing. They could even be under controlled opposition. Now, if they stop paying taxes to the local council it’s very likely that their action will have an impact.

When the group of like-minded People is going well, you can feel some magic in it. There are strong connections and bonds between the People. People regain their laugh and smile. You know you are in a group of men and women you can count on. There is this can do attitude, a positive mindset and confidence that we will get to a better situation. People also feel safer and this is important. It positively impacts the mind and physical health of the People in the group.

It’s important to write down what we do not see: we do not see endless complaints, we do not see selfish behavior, we do not see hypocrisy, we do not see aggressive behaviors, we do not see constant negativity, we do not see blaming. The absence of these undesirable behaviors reveals that there is something positive going on.

As you join like-minded folks, your integration level with them may vary and evolve. By integration level we mean how much time you spend with them as well as how connected your life is with these People. For instance, you could join a group 2 hours a week on every Friday or you could move your family to an eco-village where you will work and live with like-minded People. These are two types of integration. One is pretty low, the other is really high.

It’s for you to decide what makes sense to you. Imagine your need for feeling of safety is high then it is likely that a high integration level is the right thing for you.

We just want you to notice this concept of integration level.

As time passes by, your integration level will also evolve. Imagine that thanks to the actions we did the society transformed into a place where wellbeing and happiness is the norm. At that point in time you may not need to have the same level of integration with the group as you used to have. In a nutshell, you, like-minded, come together to reach outcomes. Once the outcomes are reached you may take different paths which is totally fine.

The two main pitfalls to avoid are endless discussions and controlled opposition.

“Hey, come join our like-minded group, we protest every Saturday for 5 hours”… and then we get back to our normal life, like nothing happened. Sounds familiar? Yes it is. Not a surprise! This practice is a typical practice of the controlled opposition (read more here). This is the pitfall of being part of a like-minded group but the actions done have zero impact on the trajectory. Why? Because all this is orchestrated by the very same group leading you to a society of control. Of course, if you do not pause and understand controlled opposition, you cannot see it or you have the intuition that what you are doing is not leading to anything change yet you continue to do it.

The second pitfall to avoid is endless discussions. Sounds familiar too, right? Lots of blah blah blah and nothing changes. You even wonder why you got there in the first place. The issue is that by the time you realize it you may have lost a significant amount of your time that you could have spent on relevant actions. It’s super important that you get the courage to disengage yourself from groups where People do not do any action. You could also try to gear the group towards action and see how it reacts. Sometimes groups simply lack guidance and leadership.

Why do you need to be with like-minded People in the first place?

We want to cover this question because sometimes you do something but cannot really express the why of it. If someone puts words on it then you may be saying… “oh yes, this is it, it’s what i am doing but i couldn’t find the words to say it”.

You join like-minded People because you guys share commonalities (values, outcomes, views) but the main reason is that you want to be understood. See it as a need to regain alignment. You were somehow aligned with other folks around you earlier and suddenly there is this massive misalignment happening between you guys. You guys cannot understand each other anymore.

What you are doing by searching for like minded People is that you search for alignment. We have a fundamental need to be aligned with People. Alignment is how we live for a long time.

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